"Remember that all of us are descended from immigrants and revolutionists." FDR
My family has called me “the American” for quite some time. As of Tuesday April 14, they are no longer factually incorrect when doing so. This past Tuesday is the day that I became an American.
Almost exactly 20 years ago, in August of 1995, I landed at New York’s JFK airport, alone, to attend college in the US. Luckily, a dear family friend, Aileen, was there to pick me up and drive me to school. 20 years later we are still friends and she will always hold that special place in my heart – the one who picked me up and helped me start my American journey. On Tuesday, I began a new phase of that journey.
Nothing prepared me for the ceremony or emotion of that morning. The moments I will forever remember include:
Bryant W. Johnson, Records Specialist and for all intents and purposes, the Master of Ceremonies and our Entertainer for the morning. He organized us, told us where to sit (front row seat for me!), what to do, and kept us both laughing and serious as the situation demanded.
The moment when I had to relinquish my green card to a court officer. We all did. Mr. Johnson apparently knew how uncomfortable we were doing this. (The one thing I have trained myself to never, ever, lose, no matter the situation, is my Green Card. It possibly was my most prized possession until this past Tuesday.) After we had all given it back, he joked we at that moment were not quite legal, and recommended that should the fire alarm go off, we catch him!
Watching the sign language interpreter. Of course, the US being the amazingly inclusive country it is, she was there from the beginning to the end, translating he ceremony and every joke Mr. Johnson made.
The speech by Nisha Desai Biswal, Assistant Secretary of State Bureau of South and Central Asian Affairs. A naturalized citizen herself, she reminded us of her favorite quote by Franklin D. Roosevelt: “Remember, remember always, that all of us, and you and I especially, are descended from immigrants and revolutionists.”
The speech by our judge. 12 weeks in the court, it was Judge Amit P. Mehta’s first naturalization ceremony, and he was appropriately (and adorably) nervous. He told us of his story, which began in India. He was naturalized when he was 10 years old. He spoke of the great journey that is America. “America is not a destination, it is a journey. It is a constant state of striving for that perfect Union.” “The story of America is fundamentally an immigrant story,” he reminded us. “This country was founded on shared values, not a specific race or religion.”
And indeed, that was reflected in the room – 50 countries were represented. All ages, both genders, all skin tones, and many languages. We were 119 altogether. A true representation of “E pluribus unum.” Most people came with friends and family members. I, however, came alone. When I left for college, I left Switzerland alone, partly as a sign of fierce independence. Being alone Tuesday morning had a nice parallelism to it, and felt completely
Perhaps because truly, I was not alone. The gentleman sitting next to me, an immigrant from Morocco, was also alone. We took each other’s pictures (all the ones in this post are courtesy of him), spoke of entrepreneurship and the American dream (he too owns his own business), and laughed together.
I also was not alone because of the amazing social media love. Never before has that touched me so much. All Facebook comments, tweets, and texts made my day so very special – some worth highlighting include:
Congrats Ada! We’re happy to have you, especially since you make us all a little bit prettier with your magical Swiss blueberries! (JH)
Congrats Ada. Very happy for you. The last question they will ask you is what is your favorite NFL team. Although you will be tempted to say New England, if you answer Washington you will pass the test. (SA)
Congrats–we just (the US that is…) got better looking. (LHD)
Ada, this is the nicest thing that’s happened in a while and we welcome you. (BM)
While I had not expected to feel any different (after all, I have been living and paying taxes in this country for such a long time), it does feel different. It feels wonderful. Official. Proud. Humbling. I do not feel less Swiss or less European, instead, I feel more whole.
You know it is a fun book club when you invite authors to attend, and they then want to join as a participant. This is how I met Karin Tanabe (thank you Kate Michael for introducing me to her!). As an author, Karin is smart, witty, funny, and amazing at weaving characters into tales of love, political scandal, and art collector shenanigans. As a woman, Karin is kind, even funnier than her writing, gorgeous, and impeccably dressed. (Other things I love about her: she is half Belgian and wears Guerlain perfume.) In a previous career, she wrote about beauty for glossy magazines, including in Dubai. She is a self-professed beauty junkie, so much so that we have a date to go to Sephora together and compare notes (apparently our beauty shopping habits differ dramatically … stay tuned for the story of that trip). She may indeed have tried every product on the planet. And she has opinions. Strong ones. (Oh, and yes, she kissed Mick Jagger – must ask her about this next time I see her …)
AP: What city were you born in? KT: Washington D.C.
AP: What city to do you live in? KT: Washington D.C. (This makes me sound rather boring, but there were a lot of places in between!)
AP: What is your middle name? KT: Elizabeth.
AP: What is your astrological sign? KT: Leo
AP: What is something about you most people don’t know? KT: I kissed Mick Jagger.
AP: What is your most prized possession? KT: My first book contract.
AP: If you could have dinner with the person of your choice, who would it be? KT: I’d love to break bread with Donna Tartt and ask her what she does in the ten years between her books. I’d also like to know if she gets bored of wearing menswear-inspired suits on the regular.
AP: Describe your fashion style in three words maximum. KT: Classic, globally-inspired.
AP: Do you wear a watch? If yes, what model? KT: Nope.
AP: Diamonds or pearls? KT: Diamonds! The more the merrier.
AP: What is your #1 beauty secret? KT: Sunblock. So much sunblock. I like the cheap stuff and mostly buy Hawaiian Tropic because it smells like the beach.
AP: What fragrance do you wear? KT: L’Instant de Guerlain.
AP: Botox or not? KT: Not yet, but I’m not opposed in the future.
AP: Hair color: natural or not? KT: I don’t even know what my natural hair color is at this point.
AP:What are your special diet tips, if any? KT: Drink soy milk to stay full, pretend bread is poisonous.
AP:What do you do for exercise? KT: I go to a morning boot camp class four days a week and run one day a week.
AP:What are three things that you always have in your fridge? KT: Lemonade, tangerines and cheddar cheese.
AP: What is your cocktail of choice? KT: I go very high low. I like either champagne or cheap watery beer.
AP: What is your secret to work/life balance? KT: It’s okay to be a hot mess sometimes. I think when we say work/life balance it sounds very organized and Zen, but often I have to sacrifice work for life or life for work and that’s okay. I think that’s the trick. Letting one win every now and again and not feeling guilty about it.
AP:How many miles do you fly per year on average? KT: Lately, book deadlines win more than travel so about 15,000.
AP: What are your three top tips for travel? KT: Really warm socks, earplugs and patience.
AP: Three songs on your iPod right now. KT: The only music I can listen to when I write is classical, so that tends to dominate my playlists. Right now I love Lakmé by Leo Delibes, Air to Air by the Silk Road Ensemble and Chris Thile preforming Bach’s Sonata No. 1 in G Minor on mandolin.
AP: What book are you reading right now? KT: I just went to a Kazuo Ishiguro book signing and bought The Buried Giant, but I’m finishing his When We Were Orphans before I crack it.
AP: Quote to live by. KT: “Do crazy things with your hair while you still have hair to do it with.”
AP:What is your worst pet peeve? KT: Visible clutter. I don’t mind if drawers and closets are a disaster, but I like to live in denial and don’t want to see any of it.
AP:What time do you usually wake up in the morning, and how many hours of sleep do you usually get?KT: Weekdays I get up at 6:15 and sleep seven to eight hours. Weekends I just roll with it.
AP: What is your favorite thing about the beauty industry? KT: I’m a beauty junkie so it’s hard to boil it down to one, but I’d have to go with innovation. There are always new products to try.
AP: Least favorite thing. KT: Narrow-mindedness.
AP: Who is your mentor? KT: I never had a mentor when I worked in journalism as I was always working at these dog eat dog publications, but now that I write books I would say that my editor Sarah is my mentor. I think that the editor/writer relationship just lends itself to that.
AP: Words of advice for young women starting their careers today. KT: It can take a very long time to get the career you want. Work hard, make smart choices and be patient. Also, it’s more important to be smart than “pretty.” That sounds extremely obvious, but the world is constantly telling us that the opposite is true, so I think it’s important to say it again and again.
An hour outside of DC, there is this magical place called Salamander Resort & Spa. Per founder Sheila Johnson’s guidance, this resort feels like her home. An amazing home where everything is perfect – and still feels cozy and homey. I go there for some quiet time, for some girlfriend time, and soon, hopefully for a romantic weekend getaway with my husband.
Most of all, I go there for the best massage in the world. I am fortunate to have the opportunity to work with the spa, as they carry Alchimie Forever along with other great brands including Natura Bisse, Caudalie, Sprayology, and more. After going to the spa as a vendor partner for over a year, I decided it was time to go to the spa as a customer. So in December last year I booked a massage, forgetting to mention that I prefer a female therapist. When I got there, I was introduced to Brian. Not wanting to come off as high maintenance, I bit my lip and said nothing. Good for me, as Brian gave me the best massage I have ever had! I was back at the spa with Brian on Thursday for a second visit… this will now become a quarterly thing. Brian looks like Michael Jordan and his hands are just as large and powerful as I imagine Jordan’s to be. His fingers know to look for knots and pain points even when the guest can’t quite describe them. My theory is that is because Brian is a former horse trainer (he still fox hunts), and as such has had to figure out what horses need without them being able to speak to him.
Brian is the key to making this treatment amazing, but not the only reason I can’t stop coming back. Beyond the spa amenities, here is what makes this the best massage in the world. The spa rooms are large and have floor-to-ceiling windows that let natural light in. A sign of how someone has thought of everything is that the blinds are open during the part of the massage that happens “face down” and then closed by the therapist before the guest is invited to turn over and “face up.” The linens are the softest I have ever felt. The massage bed is heated and positioned to help the guest feel perfectly comfortable. The oil blends used during the massage are my friend Michael Scholes’ Laboratory of Flowers brand of essential oils, and the best part is that you get some at the end of the massage to take home with you, so that a little bit of the spa comes with you.
And this is just the massage… Apparently the facials are just as amazing, per BFF Heidi Kallett of The Dandelion Patch loves Huda as much as I love Brian.